好好活著 因為樹還在長… 孫大偉這樣用心維持溫暖家庭

2005.07.10　 中國時報
好好活著 因為樹還在長… 孫大偉這樣用心維持溫暖家庭
採訪邱祖胤


在諸多響亮名號的背後，孫大偉是個十足愛家的男人，儘管言談間充滿嬉笑怒罵，但總是離不開他的「小牛、小馬」，不管是拿這兩個小孩來舉例、還是開玩笑，那種疼入心的老爸心態，令人感動。

入行數十年，得到很多，也犧牲很多，孫大偉懂得取捨，唯有家庭這一項最是捨不得。但忙，怎麼辦？「我覺得是一份心意吧，只要肯用心，家人一定感覺得到。」他熱愛工作，也喜歡呼朋引伴，喜愛自然的他，認為人生就是一趟旅行，獨樂樂不夠，一定要與大家分享。
熱中全家旅遊，寵小孩也寵自己

幾次與同事攻略旅遊勝地的行程，不只搞怪不斷、笑聲不斷，最重要的是，這些旅程都少不了家中的成員，把愛玩、愛家和寵小孩結合在一起的旅程，讓人備感充實。

「雖然大家好像看我賺到了許多，但其實我也犧牲了不少，比如打高爾夫，我從來就沒有時間去打；手機也是，大概從來沒有人看過我打手機，我認為何必花那麼多時間被手機給拴住？另外，我幾乎這十年來沒有去過任何一家卡拉OK，在這方面的娛樂，我是有殘缺的。但我會在缺的各方面找對人，想打聽相關消息時才不會落差太大，我知道可以在什麼地方運用資源。」

他覺得自己固然犧牲了許多「高尚品味」，但釣魚、接近自然、與家人朋友共處的歡樂，卻是無可取代的。

當然，總有需要一個人獨處、放空的時候，孫大偉喜歡陳昇的一首歌：《我喜歡私奔和我自己》，是他某些時刻的心情寫照。他接受連續四周的密集訓練，成為知本森林遊樂區的解說員，從此只要一有空，就會開車直奔台東，有時從東部繞過去，有時從西部南下、從最南端的鵝鑾鼻勾上來，邁向與樹溝通、與愛樹人為伴、為大自然傳福音的新天堂樂園。車上總要帶著幾本書、數片CD消磨，睡就睡車上，累了就泡最便宜的溫泉或公共浴池。解放的結果，天曉得有多少怪想法會跑出來。

不過最近幾次「私奔」，也讓他發現一個事實：眼力退化了。認床的孫大偉很少住旅店，他喜歡睡車上，車子也是旅途中的書房，為了應付逐漸吃力的眼力，他得在車上加裝許多照明，就是不願放棄在車上看書、享受一個人獨處的寶貴時光。

前進宜蘭買地，種樹也種下希望

去年他在宜蘭買塊地，把他曾與姊姊合開花圃的功力再度發揮出來。那時剛選舉完，很多人都準備移民國外，他卻有死守台灣的準備，說是「逆勢操作」。可是麻煩的就是買的地段叫「富農段」，他笑說：「共產黨來了就完蛋了！」

於是他決定帶著小牛、小馬到那裡種樹，享受種樹樂、也享受天倫樂，但絕的是，因為車上的空間都被樹給占滿了，只好叫兩兄弟搭火車去，再和他會合。那次他們總共種了11棵橡樹，一棵青剛栗，一棵栗子樹，一棵牛樟，一股蔚然成林的希望，油然而生。

種完了樹，孫大偉叫小牛、小馬學著《龍貓》卡通裡面的情節，拿著雨傘對著小樹苗鬼叫鬼叫，祈禱它快點長大。「現在雖然我看不到那幾棵樹，但我知道那些樹還在長，我鬱卒的時候、躺在病床上的時候，它也還在長；我變成有一個希望，所謂希望並不是讓它長果子、有樹蔭；其實就是讓它持續成長，也許幾十年、幾百年……。」

到了一個年紀，有了另一番想法

他認為人到了一個年紀，會有一個反祖現象，想要回歸兒時的記憶，或者回到出發點，「這有點像是飛機在飛，飛過了折返點，有的人就往回飛了。我則是一直往前飛啦！但飛的過程，會想找尋類似的故土，或者經營以前記憶的根基，你就沒辦法回頭了。」

孫大偉的新辦公室選在大稻埕一棟經過「拉皮」的歷史建築，這裡也充滿著孫式哲學。「這裡是一個老建築，但辦公室的功能、配備都要是一流的才行；我們情感上是義和團，但總不能用刀劍去對抗槍炮，配備跟觀念上一定要非常先進才行。我們都是洋人公司出身，是西點軍校跑來當義和團！」

現在，即使剛作完心導管手術，孫大偉依然像個過動兒一樣，談著他從日本帶回來的珍貴CD──美空雲雀的爵士精選；談他珍藏的葡萄美酒──彼德梅爾書中推薦的；還有滿屋子的違禁品──不能講。

醫生告訴他，手術後如果可以爬得動二層樓，就可以有性生活，看他在這棟貴為歷史建築的辦公室裡不斷上上下下的勤跑，彷彿也看到了一個兼顧家庭與事業的男人，樂在其中的鬥志與雄心……。

【他是這樣做爸爸的……】

在玩中培養親子情

對於家庭跟小孩，玩心重的孫大偉常說：「我是做了爸爸之後，才學會如何做爸爸的。」這句話後來被拿去當汽車廣告的台詞。由於平時工作太忙，他就負責周日「包玩」，與孩子的「革命情感」就在「玩」中培養起來。以前他會在冰箱裡擺一個糖果櫃定期補貨，隨時滿足孩子的需求，他認為這是做父母的責任；他也曾幫小孩辦PARTY，讓孩子在同學面前很有面子、同儕關係更良好。

由於自己的老媽很會為小孩打抱不平，甚至會為了孩子去找校長理論，對孫大偉的影響很深，所以他對小孩也是百般呵護，以家為重心、胳臂往內彎的想法，一直深植在他心中。

現在孩子大了，自己的心態也在改變，畢竟孩子總有一天要離開自己的羽翼，但「哥兒們」的心態沒變。由於小牛讀的是建築系，他有一陣子興起一個念頭：出一本與孩子談建築的書，想藉著親子交流的火花，讓硬邦邦的「建築」多些人氣與趣味。

梅子涼拌小黃瓜

梅子涼拌小黃瓜
製作示範/丁秀娥、陳立真


材料：小黃瓜2條、酸梅蜜餞4顆、蒜頭2瓣、紅辣椒1條

調味料：果糖2小匙、梅子醋（或白醋）2大匙、香油1小匙、鹽1/4小匙
作法：

1.小黃瓜切成小圓片，以1大匙鹽抓醃20分鐘，待軟化出水後，瀝乾鹽水備用。

2.酸梅去籽、切絲。蒜頭、紅辣椒均切末。

3.小黃瓜片加入酸梅絲、蒜末、辣椒末及調味料，拌勻入味後即可食用。

不怕出身低 只怕不學習 陳文敏教你國際禮儀

2005.07.06　 中國時報
不怕出身低 只怕不學習 陳文敏教你國際禮儀
陳文敏（紐約國際管理顧問公司總經理）


我的好友Mr.G是美國某大軟體公司的副總裁，2005年3月，他飛到上海去面試該公司在中國地區的總經理。行前，他眉飛色舞地告訴我，已經找到幾位傑出的華人人選，學、經歷都是萬中選一，「I can’t wait to meet them! 」他說。

一舉一動 代表公司形象
幾天後他卻十分沮喪地告訴我，他並沒找到他想要的總經理。他問我：「為什麼華人在學、經歷都如此傑出，工作亦十分認真，但卻不肯花一點時間去學習國際禮儀？我們公司無法聘用一個不懂禮儀的CEO，因為他的一舉一動都代表了公司的形象。」

●案例1：遲到不道歉 推諉卸責難當大任

那一天他最後甄試的人選有3個，Mr.HK是香港人，當天才從香港去上海，因為飛機誤點，使得其面試時間整整晚了近一個小時，趕到面試地點時，他不先為他的遲到趕緊道歉，卻只一再抱怨航空公司有多爛。

Mr.G不用他的原因有三：

1.飛機誤點本便是他應事先估算好的風險，做總經理的人應做好風險管理。

2.飛機誤點不是他的錯，但對方希望看見的是他誠心誠意的道歉，而不是高傲地去批評其他人

3.如果他夠重視這個面試，為什麼不能提早來上海？

●案例2：坐著握手 不懂尊重惹人厭

Mr.C是上海人，見到Mr.G時卻很隨便地坐著與他握手；而且面試時很少傾聽Mr.G的話，只顧著一直吹噓自己有多偉大，口沫橫飛，完全無視於Mr.G漸表不耐的表情。被當掉是因為：

1.坐著與人握手讓對方覺得不受重視。

2.只會吹噓自己，不尊重對方感受，如何領導同仁？

3.只顧自己說話，不知傾聽對方，將來如何服務顧客？

●案例3：不修邊幅 「外表」太遜矮人一截

Mr.T則是台灣人，也是三位中學經歷最棒的一個，Mr.G原來心中已經暗定是他了，但見面後卻十分痛苦地決定捨棄，原因是：

1.來應徵時，他穿了一套老舊的灰色西裝，看起來病厭厭的，白色衣領上竟有一圈黑色的汙垢，衣袖也發毛了，如此不修邊幅如何代表公司？

2.握手時，他只用手指輕輕一握而且眼睛看著地下，讓人覺得他毫無熱情也缺乏自信。

3.Mr.T態度雖然謙恭有禮，但在近2小時的面談中，他很少開口，也很少正視對方，面無表情，讓Mr.G覺得他很難溝通。

4.結束時，2個人近距離的道再見時，當Mr.G聞到他濃濃的口臭後，便做了決定：像這樣一位不重視外表、不善溝通與表達的人，不宜代表公司。

主管失禮 公司損失更高

Mr.G這樣的評選標準，在台灣或許會被人認為過份嚴苛，但實際上今天任何一個想步入高階的主管，將來都必然會面臨到國際市場的競爭，或是須與國際人有生意上的往來，主管們的一舉一動都代表了公司的形象，自然都會以國際標準來被檢視。

這也是我近幾年在亞洲不斷接受「國際禮儀」演講邀約的原因，學員都是公司的高階主管。而其中有一國際大廠更是要求我為其全亞洲公司的主管上課，我問其總裁為何需要花費如此高額成本，他說「主管時間成本固然高，但若主管失禮，所造成的成本會更高，更何況主管優雅的禮儀會替公司的形象大大加分，或甚至帶來更多的生意，所以值得投資！」

曾有記者問我，當年我能打入紐約上流社會，是不是因為我從小便出身豪門？家境富裕可能給了我好的環境，但更重要的是來自我父母嚴格的要求。而這些要求都一輩子影響了我們，不但提昇我們外在，更增加了自信與魅力。

沒有富爸爸 一樣有魅力

即使你沒有富爸爸，好媽媽從小的栽培，但從今天開始亦為之不晚。英雄不怕出身低，只怕不學習。社會越來越國際化，年紀越小，將來可得面對更多的挑戰。建議你在栽培自己的同時，別忘了也要一起栽培小朋友喔！在家與外出都身體力行，自然也可以為小朋友建立行為準則；常有人說學音樂的小孩不會變壞，我認為有教養的小孩也較容易得到貴人的相助。貴族不怕出身窮，只怕欠栽培。

勤習必修課 麻雀變鳳凰

學習國際禮儀當然對你的事業發展有幫助，對提昇自我的品質更有幫助。不管你想成為CEO或是想麻雀變鳳凰，打入上流社會，晉身豪門，國際禮儀都是你必修的功課！即使不為名利，面對快速成長的台灣社會，每個人也都需要學習禮儀來與國際接軌，不但可以改變自己的行為舉止，也會逐漸變化氣質。

最後，我想送給所有的朋友們一句國際投資專家的話：「任何的投資都不會比『投資自己』有更高的報酬率！」現在就開始行動吧！

陳文敏小檔案

出身高雄飯店望族，自紐約大學(NYU)畢業後，在紐約從洗廁所開始做起，逐步升遷至紐約三大頂級飯店的副總經理。1996年回台成立紐約國際管理顧問公司，主持國際禮儀相關課程，頗獲好評。著有《穿上顧客的鞋子》、《打進紐約上流社會的女強人》等書。國際禮儀專欄，即將在本版與讀者見面。
友善列印

UW Student's cool solution

It felt like 41C yesterday, but Geoff Milburn beat the heat with a no-budget air conditioner

DAVE PINK
TANIA PRAEG, RECORD STAFF



HOW HE DID IT

1. Using twist ties he attached 1/8" copper tubing on to an unplugged fan's guard.

2. He put one end of the tubing into a large bucket of ice water.

3. He attached vinyl tubing to the other end of the copper, and ran it out his window to below bucket level, siphoning off the water after it absorbed the heat.
TORY ZIMMERMAN, RECORD STAFF

Geoff Millburn has created a cheap, effective cooling system.

WATERLOO (Jun 25, 2005)

It was 32 C yesterday, but it felt like 41 with the humidex.

And the heat wave isn't going away anytime soon. It's supposed to be at least 29 today, with temperatures hovering around the 30 degree mark for much of the week.

So what's a poor student unused to Ontario heat and humidity to do? Obviously, build an air conditioner.

"It was really, really hot, and I hate sleeping in the heat," says Geoff Milburn, 21, a civil engineering student at the University of Waterloo.

He shared his dilemma -- too much humidity and not enough money to buy an air conditioner -- with a fellow engineering student. "He said, 'Why don't we just build one? It can't be that hard.' "

Turns out, it wasn't.

Take an electric fan, a water barrel, some copper tubing and some vinyl hose and, as Milburn's discovered, the result is a cool night's sleep.

The device worked so well -- it cools a room in about 20 minutes -- Milburn decided to tell the world from his web site where he lists what's needed and explains how it's put together.

Suddenly he's getting a lot of attention. He's been interviewed by the CBC, National Public Radio in the U.S. and other media. Fellow do-it-yourselfers have bombarded him with questions, suggestions and observations.

The system will cool an average room in less than half-an-hour, while a full barrel of ice water will last anywhere from one to three hours.

Ice water is siphoned from the barrel through the vinyl hose and into the copper tubing which has been wrapped around a fan.

The fan moves air through the chilled copper and cool air fills the room.

As the water warms it's drained away through another vinyl hose.

"It's really just a heat exchanger," says Milburn.

He suggests the waste water be used on flowerbeds.

Milburn put the device together one recent Saturday afternoon, when he had some time on his hands.

"It's an idea I'd been kicking around for awhile," says Milburn, who hails from the much-less-humid city of St. Albert, Alta., a suburb of Edmonton.

"I just can't get used to this humidity," he admits.

So, he headed off to Home Depot, aiming to turn make his idea a reality.

"I figured the worst thing that could happen is I'd be out the $25 for the parts, and the best thing that could happen is the room would be a little cooler.

"I got a million times more attention than I ever thought I would," he says. "I guess I could have bought an air conditioner, but then I would have missed out on building one.

"The real motivation was having something to build," he says.

"If you give me enough time and enough useless parts I'll come up with something."

dpink@therecord.com

ON THE WEB

www.eng.uwaterloo.ca/ ~gmilburn/ac/

Permission to fidget

Sharon Robertson, principal at Forest Glen Public School in New Hamburg, jumps on a trampoline in her office, surrounded by students (from left) Conrad Pfenning, 7, Marcus Pfenning, 10, and Cassidy Kieswetter, 7. They are demonstrating the theory behind Brain Gym -- healthy snacks, water and activity.

Retiring principal urges schools around the globe to realize many children can't learn sitting still at a desk
LUISA D'AMATO
PETER LEE, RECORD STAFF


(Jul 4, 2005)

There would be a trampoline in every classroom if Sharon Robertson could have her way.

Robertson, 52, who retired last week as principal of Forest Glen Public School in New Hamburg, is admired across Waterloo Region and around the world for her work advocating the connection between learning and physical movement.

"Everybody learns differently," she says. But traditionally, schools haven't done a great job of assisting kinesthetic learners, who need to move around while they're learning.

The rules about sitting still in class without fidgeting work against these students, who Robertson says are in some ways the least understood by the education system.

That's why there are small trampolines in some of Forest Glen's classrooms and also big balls, that kids can sit and wobble on.

"They have to bounce and talk," says Robertson, who herself is one of these types of learners, and who as a child struggled to learn to read on schedule with the rest of the class when she was growing up in the Stratford area.

Kids could bounce in rhythm to saying their times tables, or spelling words, or just while they think about something --whatever they need, she said.

She also encourages teachers to use drama. "These kids love drama and to act things out. Moving, singing, acting . . . "

Robertson has travelled to Hong Kong, England and all over the United States to talk about the effectiveness of Brain Gym, a series of physical exercises designed to develop the brain's neural pathways and stimulate learning.

The technique was developed in the United States, but Robertson brought it to Waterloo Region, where many teachers use it.

She also has travelled all over the world, studying learning methods in schools as far-flung as Denmark and Chicago. She saw that students in one poor area of Chicago needed to move around while learning, and their teacher used chants and raps to increase student memory, as well as physically moving them from one spot to the other.

Her discoveries gave Robertson enormous respect for the diverse ways students learn.

Some need to lie on the floor sometimes, some need a pillow from home, and some need the glaring fluorescent lights turned off.

If a student is having difficulty grasping a concept, the teacher will succeed if he or she just finds the right strategy.

"And, boom! It happens!"

Robertson doesn't keep still as she talks about this; she leans across her desk as she makes a point or walks around her office, showing a visitor the toys she keeps to engage the children.

She doesn't seem old or tired enough to be retiring.

But she has chosen this moment because she wants to donate a kidney to help someone she's been friends with since Grade 2, and the time for the donation is in the fall.

"A perfect teacher's gift for me would be to sign your donor card," she said.

Robertson's husband, Brad, principal at Northlake Woods Public School in Waterloo, will stay on in his job.

Robertson has also pioneered other things that are now common practice at some schools.

Ten years ago when she ran Breslau Public School, she decided to allow the children to bring bottled water into class so they could take a swig whenever they liked as they worked. Other teachers were skeptical, thinking there would be water fights. But Robertson prevailed, knowing that a dehydrated body can't learn.

Today, many teachers allow water in class.

Robertson went further, ditching the vending machines that dispensed junk food at the school, and allowing children to eat fresh fruits and vegetables in class.

"Some of us need to munch while we're learning," she said.

So deep is the commitment to physical health that Robertson even balked at the common practice of selling chocolate bars as a school fundraiser. Last year, her schools tried selling popcorn instead, but they ended up with $3,000 less than they had hoped for. This year, Robertson agreed to go back to chocolate bars, which raise about $10,000 a year. She reasoned that the school's parent council, which does much of the work of fundraising, preferred it that way, and that compromise is part of a balanced life.

Most of all, Robertson believes in the power of the connection between teachers and students.

"If there is a connection there, and there is a high expectation of the student, the student will rise to please the teacher,"she said.

Even the kids with behaviour problems "want that acknowledgment that they're OK, they're a learner in their own right.''

"If we concentrate on our strength, and they feel smart in different ways, then they're more apt to work on the part they're not smart at.

"We have to give these kids strategies, because they have to continue learning when they leave us."

ldamato@therecord.com

涼拌牛肉片

2005.07.05　 中國時報
涼拌牛肉片
郭興忠


材料：牛肉片250公克、洋蔥絲25公克、芹菜1根、蔥1根、小黃瓜1條、小番茄3粒、碎辣椒少許、香菜少�
調味料：魚露1大匙、新鮮檸檬汁2大匙、白砂糖1大匙
作法：

1.將牛肉汆燙至八分熟；小番茄洗淨對切；小黃瓜切片；蔥洗淨切蔥花，備用。

2.將魚露、新鮮檸檬汁、白砂糖放入碗中，攪拌均勻，備用。

3.將作法1的食材及洋蔥絲、芹菜、蔥花、香菜、碎辣椒，放入碗中拌勻，最後淋上調味料即可。

猶太人是怎樣教小孩有錢的？

2005.07.05　 中國時報
猶太人是怎樣教小孩有錢的？
夏韻芬


我觀察國內親子的理財教育，發現有過於寬鬆的現象，其實，全世界最會賺錢、最會教小孩賺錢的人，是猶太人……

大富翁是怎樣教育他們的孩子？從小就給他們花不完的錢嗎？其實正好相反！
最近，我密切的觀察國內親子的理財教育，發現都有過於寬鬆的現象，其實，全世界最會賺錢、最會教小孩賺錢的人，是猶太人。

猶太人理財教育冠全球

猶太人對小孩的理財教育有一套獨特的方法，他們會送股票給剛滿周歲的小孩，這是他們民族的慣例，尤其是北美的猶太人。小孩三歲時，父母就會開始教他們辨認硬幣和紙幣；五歲時，讓他們知道錢幣可以購買任何他們想要的東西，並告訴他們錢是怎麼賺來的；七歲時，得看懂商品標籤的價格，並加深「錢能換物」的理財觀念；八歲時，教他們可以透過打工來賺錢，並且把錢存在銀行裡；十一歲到十二歲，要他們看穿電視廣告的假象，並且執行兩周以上的開銷計畫，懂得正確使用銀行的術語。

石油大亨洛克菲勒就是猶太人，他要求他的孩子在每天睡覺前記下當天的每一筆開銷，甚至告訴他哪裡可以買到更便宜的商品，他的目的就是要告訴孩子學會過節儉的生活。

其實洛克菲勒是美國首富，也是是世界第一位擁有十億美元財產的大富翁，但他給子女的零用錢卻少得可憐，而且比一般的家庭要求更嚴格。

美國首富教導孩子從小不可亂花費

他規定：七至八歲，每周給三十分美元的零用錢；十一歲至十二歲，每周一美元；十二歲以上，每周給三美元；他每周發一次零用錢，並要求子女們事先做出預算並記清每一筆支出的用途，待下次領錢時交由他來檢查，若帳目清楚、用途正當，下周增發五美分，反之則減。連大富翁洛克菲勒都用這種辦法，讓孩子從小養成不亂花費的習慣，你還要怎樣寵壞孩子？

其實，大富翁都盡量避免孩子養成生活在富裕家庭的優越感，希望他們和普通孩子一樣接受基礎的理財教育，更重要的是，讓他們知道賺錢不容易，才容易守成。過去，我在工作上採訪不少大老闆，包括嚴凱泰、王令僑等被認為銜著金湯匙出生的小富翁，打小的生活並不輕鬆，像嚴凱泰就跟其他孩子一樣要趕校車上下學，沒有大轎車接送。

財富可能歸零，智慧卻長相左右

「只要你活著，智慧就會伴隨你一生。」在猶太家庭的母親啟蒙小孩時都會問：「假如有一天你的房子被燒，你的財產被人搶光，那麼你將帶著什麼東西逃命？」一般，小孩會直覺地想到錢或是鑽石、珠寶的答案，但是母親會說：「孩子，你要帶走的不是錢，也不是鑽石，而是智慧。」因為智慧是任何人都搶不走的。經歷了九一一恐怖攻擊、南亞海嘯，甚至國內的九二一災難，很多人的財富歸零，但是智慧卻讓很多人再站起來。

所以猶太人從小培養孩子讀書的好習慣，讓他們知道書中能賦予他們無窮的智慧。猶太人在擁有圖書館、出版社及每年每人平均讀書的比率上，超越世界上任何一個國家，如果你清楚這些方法，就要開始幫自己跟孩子擬定一套有效的親子理財計畫。